work in progress 🙂
You’re Thinking if you prefer: (you can also do a test)
- Decide with logic vs intuition/emotions/idealism/beliefs/conviction/values
- Problem solving vs collaboration, listening, empathy
- Prefer truth, things are black or white vs many grey areas, subjective, striving to maintain harmony and peace
- Efficiency, being brief and concise vs , being tactful, indirect
- Impersonal and firm with people vs expressing concern, warm, caring, gentle
- Thick skinned, will criticise, conflict is part of relationships vs Easily offended, value appreciation, conflict is unsettling and is avoided at all costs
Preferences and Strengths:
More efficient, problem solvers
In conflict, thinkers will discuss directly from a rational, objective viewpoint.
Focus their responses on accurately conveying their perspectives on a certain topic. They are goal-oriented when communicating and maintain a conversation’s objectivity while also shifting its focus toward fixing a problem, if possible.
Thinkers often prefer extrinsic motivators, such as a raise or promotion within the company. Feelers typically appreciate the knowledge that the work they do helps people and positively affects the long-term goals of their company.
Weaknesses and risks: Someone who is 100% on the thinking side has no type of emotional intelligence. Like a robot, show no emotion and will complain if other people disagree with their ideas because they are not thinking “rational”. With a blunt, unlikeable attitude, they are considered a prude.
Improving and covering gaps as thinker: Think about the impact of your words on people who may perceive things differently to you Warm up your communications and add a personal element
Look up from your tasks and make connections
Offer some praise as well as constructive criticism
Challenge gently
Adapting and dealing with feelers:
Try to begin a conversation with points you both agree on. This allows a feeler to understand that you’re willing to collaborate on a topic
Focus on a feeler’s concerns. A conversation is more likely to progress positively if a feeler knows you understand their opinions
Consider letting a feeler speak uninterrupted about their opinions. They often want to feel valued in a conversation rather than transitioning directly toward the problem-solving portion of a discussion
Especially let the Feeler know about your happiness with what they do for the relationship
Feelers are also sentimental of holidays, milestones, and other important dates, so be sure you remember to celebrate accordingly.
If a Feeling Type requests to spend time with you, fulfill them as often as possible.
Always extending an open ear to your Feeling Type partner is extremely important—listening is often better than giving advice, especially if your intended response is a critique.
Let the Feeler work through his or her emotions, and be understanding of how often they may discuss how they’re feeling, and always apologize when necessary.
Love your Feeling partner for who they are inside and out, as opposed to their actions, while taking the time to get to know them
Feelers thrive on emotional assurance, complimenting them or expressing your affection—verbally, materially, and physically—will make them very happy.
Feeling
Preferences and Strengths:
Feelers prioritize emotions over objectivity and focus their discussions on the emotions and opinions of participants in the conversation. They often try to make everyone in a conversation feel comfortable and understood. They also use body language to communicate, mimicking others in a conversation to understand and empathize with how others feel
Weaknesses and risks:
Feelers may remain silent rather than risk upsetting feelings or creating uncomfortable work environment
Someone who is 100% on the feeling side might be a pushover, scared of hurting people’s feelings, will always stay quite because they think that their opinion will harm the group. With no ability to be confrontational, stress builds.
With 2 feelers, partners act extra guarded about what they say or do, so as not to hurt their partner’s feelings. Such repression of feelings can lead to outbursts later on
Improving and covering gaps:
Get comfortable with standing up for yourself
Surround yourself with Givers and Matchers, avoid Takers
Don’t take criticism to heart
Know when to focus on the task and minimise the human interactions
Adapting and dealing with thinkers:
Consider the facts of the situation as well as the people
Give rational reasons for decisions rather than personal ones
Be prepared to question and challenge
Recognize that thinkers are there for the team and can really motivate and collaborate with them to move the ship forward
Follow their advice and tell them it was useful and had positive impact
Provide constructive feedback when something they suggest doesn’t work
Ask what they think, not what they’re feeling. Don’t mention feelings when arguing
Don’t worry about negativity. Be honest, direct, concise and thorough with your argument
Just because a Thinker isn’t expressing their emotions toward you doesn’t mean that they don’t have feelings for you.
Try to begin a conversation with a list of logical points
Keep the language as objective as possible and be brief when discussing your points Refrain from including emotional reasoning in your points, focus on facts
Try to be calm and focus on reason as you continue a discussion
Relationships / Friendships:
Feelers can be attracted to a Thinker’s ability to stand up for themselves, and ability to keep calm and collected during times of conflict
If you like this, you’ll probably like: I/E N/S T/F J/P, INTJ, personality tests, books
Leo :) 